Do you feel guilty of slowing down ??

It was the longest day of the year yesterday. How crazy is that? I don't know about you but the summer nights just make me want to be in the outdoors and enjoy nature.

I wanted to go to the solstice as I do feel it lifts my spirits , as you know I'm a bit of an earthist .. Anyhow I didn't get to go for the normal reasons lately .. As you know, I've been absolutely rubbish on the blog and email front lately. I've been too busy with physio or endless admin and contingency plans that everything seems to have gone wayward . However, it's time to try and get some routine back. What I wanted to talk to you about today is something that I'm kind of battling at the minute....the guilt of slowing down.. Being injured has affected me in so many ways. Do you ever find that when you stop, you feel you should be doing something? Or if you miss class, you feel guilty? Skip a date with a friend .. you feel bad ... Want to go to a class and ask hubby to stay in .. feel guilty

Maybe its feeling that you should always be on the go or you're not doing your best. That somehow if you don't do X, Y and Z your a failure

I've certainly been feeling this way for the last few months . At the start of the year I had so many plans, a new look bootcamp , new feel classes, activities , a new timetable , I wanted to become more active in the classes with you , leading and joining in. It started so good way back In January , I felt content and happy with the direction I wanted to go , in control and at peace with myself. Then IT happened . It turned my world upside down and all the commitments I had stopped. Teaching in the school , PT and my own exercise plans and goals all went out the window.

I have had no choice but to hit the pause button.

For the first few weeks, I did nothing but cry every day because I couldn't see me getting through , but somehow we did get by with the help of a lot of friends. So many members tell me that they are with B-Fit because it takes care of their overall wellbeing...mental, physical and emotional. Being around such positive people lifts and empowers them, the endorphins lift them mentally and they love the physical effects on their body too.

I found this out first hand .. so Thankyou Why am I writing this to you today ? Sometimes we all have to just press pause and slow down....without guilt. Life is so fast paced and it's the norm for most if us to be at a million miles per hour. In fact, most of us thrive off it. I certainly do...I love being busy and feeling like I have purpose. If you feel like you're in full flow right now, brilliant. Keep up the good work :-))) If you're struggling, lift the pressure off yourself and take a look round at what's in your control and put every bit of your focus into that being positive. The stuff you can't control can wait for now. If you need time to slow down, take it. TAKE IT !!! It feels very alien to us to put ourselves first . However, as the saying goes, you can't pour from an empty cup.

Don't allow the cup to be empty before we hit the pause button

I recruited Emma this week to start mentoring and training , This is huge for me to delegate and trust people with my business. Lisa , Sam and Tracey have been part of my B-Fit family for so long .. but the time was right to do this and to stop feeling guilty about needing tome to recover. To not deny myself holidays then feel guilty classes where missed.

It wont happen immediately as it will take time, but I'm not sure what the future holds for me right now and its time to look towards that putting myself first. Its a positive step forward Going forward it will ease my workload, allow me family time and who knows allow me to recover from my next lot of surgery .. Without feeling guilty of letting you down or burning myself out...

So this email is just a gentle reminder to look after your 'overall' self today. I'm sure most of you are but I do see and speak to lots of you on class who are fighting this battle inside, husbands are away and your juggling 100 balls. Kids are playing up and your beating yourself up.

Strained relationships and your blaming yourself , injured and your hating on yourself. .. not getting the results you wanted as quick as you thought feeling like there's something wrong with you .. and to you .. you know who you are . who has so little confidence in herself she markets her self as the worst on class..

Go easy on yourself

Just remember how amazing you are and take one step at a time

Stop every now and then and give yourself a huge pat on the back.

And never feel guilty for SELF CARE !!! Have a great weekend. Allie

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